We all know the saying "there’s light at the end of the tunnel." But what if I were to tell you there’s light wherever you are in the tunnel? Well, there is, and there's a really quick and simple way to find it and make whatever you’re going through a little easier.
To get started, let’s look at some examples of less-than-ideal situations you might be dealing with:
All varying degrees of frustration and misery with no upside, right? Wrong!
Now, I’m going to suggest something that might make you want to punch me in the face, but please resist the urge for physical violence and just ask yourself this question:
“What’s perfect about this?”
Because in 99% of situations, you’re going to find at least one good thing. (Yes, even you cynics out there will be able to find something!) Proof?
By identifying something good about an otherwise crappy situation, you alter your perspective of what’s going on, which then positively affects your emotions, helps clear your head a little, and can even empower you to take steps towards a better life. All by just asking that one little question!
Now I’m sure you’ve got some more serious examples jumping to your mind—situations where you’re sure this question just wouldn’t work. Trust me, my brain’s coming up with some doozies as I write this! But in my heart, I really do believe something good can come out of even the most awful situations. New, supportive relationships are formed. Better laws are enacted. Leaders emerge.
To that end, sometimes you really can only see the good once you’re looking back at the situation. If you’ve tried and tried but can’t find what’s perfect in the present moment, imagine something good that might happen in the future thanks to what you’re going through. Just doing a little daydreaming can help change how you experience your present sucky situation, bringing you less stress and more optimism. And, seriously, who doesn’t want that?
And if you’re up for a little more than just imagining, take some turtle steps towards making that daydream a reality—slow and steady wins the race! And even if you take the teeniest tiniest step you could possibly take, you’ll be able you ask yourself “What’s perfect about this?” and have an answer: “This situation is inspiring me to take action towards getting the better life I deserve.”
And voila! No more waiting until the end of the tunnel for that light.
Katie Baron: life coach, freelance writer, animal and nature lover, musician, relentless optimist